Wife can’t watch as ‘friend’ abuses husband’s generosity

Dear Abby

Advice Columnist

DEAR ABBY: My husband loaned a “dear friend” some money a year ago. She has yet to pay back a penny. When I ask him about it, he gets mad and tells me it’s none of my business. I have hinted to her about some large bills that we have to pay, to no avail.

Other than that, my husband and I have a great marriage and love each other very much. I just don’t like her taking advantage of his generosity. I know taking care of his friends gives him pleasure, but he has been burned before and I can see it happening again. I find it hard to ignore. What do I do? — SICK OF IT IN NEW HAMPSHIRE

DEAR SICK OF IT: I wish you had mentioned whether you work and the money your soft-touch hubby gave his friend was partly earned by you. If that’s the case, I don’t blame you for being upset.

While I’m not sure you can prevent your husband from doing this, I do think you are within your rights to insist that before he does it he discuss it with you. If he will do that, perhaps the two of you can find an alternative for the person other than giving out money.

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