DEAR ABBY: Woman wants her in-laws to be fair with their treatment of adopted granddaughter

Friday, June 21, 2019

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are in our late 40s and raised three very successful sons. We had always wanted to adopt but were not able to until our boys were grown. Everyone has been supportive except my husband’s parents.

Our daughter, whom we brought home 3 1/2 years ago, is now 7. Anyone who knows her adores her. She embraces family and has a beautiful relationship with her big brothers and their families.

My in-laws have other grandchildren whom they shower with affection. Our daughter, not so much. She doesn’t seem to mind, so I know I shouldn’t let it bother me. However, I want our inlaws to be fair with her. I know I can’t make it so outside our immediate family circle. Am I being unrealistic? — PERPLEXED IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR PERPLEXED: I think so. While you can’t change your in-laws’ behavior, you CAN make sure your daughter knows she is much loved by her parents, uncles, aunts and cousins.