DEAR ABBY: Man tells his wife his travel plans on need-to-know basis

Friday, May 31, 2019

DEAR ABBY: I could use your advice on training my husband. He refuses to enter his work travel schedule on the household calendar.

He snapped at me this week when he finally revealed that he was leaving Sunday. It took three more days to get the date he was coming back.

It was like pulling teeth. It left me with only two days to decide how to enjoy the time alone. I suspect that he’s withholding his travel data to keep me from enjoying myself too much while he’s gone.

I think it’s disrespectful to keep your wife in the dark until just a day or two before you leave. I need a way to motivate my man to share his travel dates earlier. I’m at the point where I’m tempted to ignore him and his travel since he is acting more like a child than a husband. I’m not his mommy, and I need to break his mean streak. Advice? — KEPT IN THE DARK IN LOUISIANA

DEAR KEPT: Stop putting yourself at your husband’s mercy.

You are both adults.

If you need a break and would like to schedule appointments, see a play, visit with friends, go on a trip, whatever — schedule it regardless of when your husband will be traveling. And ENJOY yourself.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.