DEAR ABBY: Cheating beau earns nothing but woman’s anger

Abigail Van Buren
Advice Columnist

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend cheated on me the whole time I was pregnant last year. He lived in Florida, and I lived in Missouri. He didn’t make it back for our son’s birth like he promised.

Now that he’s back, he stays out all night. He won’t get a job to help support our family. He lies in bed all day, gets so drunk he can’t drive and doesn’t help out around the house, either. It’s obvious that I should let him go. I’m 11 years older than he is, and he obviously isn’t ready to grow up, even though he’s 30.

I love him, but I’m tired of being treated this way. How can I get over this? — CAN’T LET GO IN KANSAS CITY

DEAR CAN’T LET GO: You say you are tired of being treated that way? Congratulations on your burst of clarity. It has finally dawned on you that you have been enabling a lazy, ungrateful, irresponsible freeloader who has no respect for you or his child. 

This isn’t “love.” You should have realized you would be raising two children when he didn’t care enough to show up for the birth of the baby. Do what you know you must: Kick him out and move on.